I was saddened to learn that a young lady that I know had to move back to Eastern Europe recently. She was trying to establish a life for herself here in the USA, but things didn't work out. She couldn't get the work visa that she wanted, and so she couldn't find employment here.
What a shame. What a terrible, terrible shame. She was a nice person.
Monday, October 12, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Whaddaya mean, "Belief is meaningless"?
Unbelievable.
I was reading a discussion on atheism recently. Two guys were arguing about whether atheism means belief that there is no God or whether it simply means an absence of belief. (FTR, the traditional definition has been an active belief that there is no deity. In more recent years though, a good number of people have used the term to simply denote a lack of belief. Personally, I think this simply leads to confusion, especially since there were already terms to describe a mere lack of belief: either non-theism or, arguably, agnosticism. But I digress.)
One other fella said, "Belief or disbelief doesn't enter into it, for atheists. There isn't anything to believe or not believe in." I've paraphrased slightly, but only by removing some parentheses.
Now that's unbelievable. This person failed to grasp that his statement -- namely that God does not exist -- is a statement of disbelief. Another person said in response, "As an atheist, I am dubious about any assertion that means that 'I don't believe in that' is an impossible statement to correctly make."
Believing that something does not exist is a statement of belief --- or alternatively, a statement of disbelief.
I was reading a discussion on atheism recently. Two guys were arguing about whether atheism means belief that there is no God or whether it simply means an absence of belief. (FTR, the traditional definition has been an active belief that there is no deity. In more recent years though, a good number of people have used the term to simply denote a lack of belief. Personally, I think this simply leads to confusion, especially since there were already terms to describe a mere lack of belief: either non-theism or, arguably, agnosticism. But I digress.)
One other fella said, "Belief or disbelief doesn't enter into it, for atheists. There isn't anything to believe or not believe in." I've paraphrased slightly, but only by removing some parentheses.
Now that's unbelievable. This person failed to grasp that his statement -- namely that God does not exist -- is a statement of disbelief. Another person said in response, "As an atheist, I am dubious about any assertion that means that 'I don't believe in that' is an impossible statement to correctly make."
Believing that something does not exist is a statement of belief --- or alternatively, a statement of disbelief.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Stock investing
Check out this article on stock investments. It advised people to put their money into defensive stocks during a recession.
This is good advice, but as with any brief article on this topic, certain things are kinda glossed over. For example, while it's probably a good idea to invest in these defensive stocks, this won't guarantee a payoff. Depending on where you are in the recession, for example, it may take a couple of years before you see the stock investments pay off. And of course, defensive stocks aren't absolutely safe. They simply entail lower risks than other stocks.
This is good advice, but as with any brief article on this topic, certain things are kinda glossed over. For example, while it's probably a good idea to invest in these defensive stocks, this won't guarantee a payoff. Depending on where you are in the recession, for example, it may take a couple of years before you see the stock investments pay off. And of course, defensive stocks aren't absolutely safe. They simply entail lower risks than other stocks.
Friday, October 09, 2009
Another dance anecdote
Here's a story. I was at a 50s event a couple of years ago. My friend Donna asked me to dance with a friend of hers, so I tried a few basic swing moves -- just some simple turns. After a couple of turns, this gal said, "Boy, you have a lot of energy."
Admittedly, I do; however, the moves I was doing were extremely basic and not very demanding. The problem wasn't that I had plenty of energy; rather, the problem was that she had virtually none. She moved in a plodding way, with no bounce to her step and scarcely moving her feet.
That's the way a lot of people are nowadays, though. Americans have become very lazy. I'm reminded of the time I was at a social outing on a nearby island. Our travelling group had planned a bike ride, but these three ladies decided to rent a golf cart instead. I overheard them say, "Yeah, we're being smart! Their butts are going to be sore, but we're going to be taking it easy."
The thing is, it doesn't take much energy to ride a bicycle. If you're in halfway good shape, your posterior is not likely to ache -- not unless you're pedalling uphill or at high speed for half an hour or so. In case you were wondering, two of these women were very much overweight, and I think the third one looked a bit sedentary as well.
Admittedly, I do; however, the moves I was doing were extremely basic and not very demanding. The problem wasn't that I had plenty of energy; rather, the problem was that she had virtually none. She moved in a plodding way, with no bounce to her step and scarcely moving her feet.
That's the way a lot of people are nowadays, though. Americans have become very lazy. I'm reminded of the time I was at a social outing on a nearby island. Our travelling group had planned a bike ride, but these three ladies decided to rent a golf cart instead. I overheard them say, "Yeah, we're being smart! Their butts are going to be sore, but we're going to be taking it easy."
The thing is, it doesn't take much energy to ride a bicycle. If you're in halfway good shape, your posterior is not likely to ache -- not unless you're pedalling uphill or at high speed for half an hour or so. In case you were wondering, two of these women were very much overweight, and I think the third one looked a bit sedentary as well.
Thursday, October 08, 2009
Fitness and dance
Earlier, I talked about how I've been attending some social dance events where virtually nobody knew any basic dance moves. Nothing except for some line dance moves and a few country steps, that is.
Here's another source of frustration. Most of those folks, even the ones who are only 35 or so, move like they're in their sixties. They've got no energy and no stamina. I can understand the lack of coordination, as it does take time to develop dance skills. Still, it's frustrating that they won't pick up their feet enough to complete a full turn, for example. Sometimes, they can't even complete a half turn. It throws everything off, and that stinks.
Again, I want to be understanding. When I first learned how to swing dance, for example, it took me a while to keep up the rhythm. I did at least try to keep my feet moving, though. Nobody can say that I was just moving sluggishly.
Therein lies the problem. A lot of people think, "Oh, I can't do this. It takes too much energy" and so they can't. Thinking positively -- being prepared to move energetically -- is about half the battle right there.
Here's another source of frustration. Most of those folks, even the ones who are only 35 or so, move like they're in their sixties. They've got no energy and no stamina. I can understand the lack of coordination, as it does take time to develop dance skills. Still, it's frustrating that they won't pick up their feet enough to complete a full turn, for example. Sometimes, they can't even complete a half turn. It throws everything off, and that stinks.
Again, I want to be understanding. When I first learned how to swing dance, for example, it took me a while to keep up the rhythm. I did at least try to keep my feet moving, though. Nobody can say that I was just moving sluggishly.
Therein lies the problem. A lot of people think, "Oh, I can't do this. It takes too much energy" and so they can't. Thinking positively -- being prepared to move energetically -- is about half the battle right there.
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
Disappointed in these dance events
I'm really getting disappointed and frustrated with these social dance events I've been attending. Except for the occasional line dance and some simple country moves, people just want to shake and sway to the music. There's nothing wrong with that, but it's frustrating; after all, anyone can shake their booty around. It takes more artistry to do something interesting with the music, and it's a lot more satisfying.
Heck, for a lot of music, you can get by with just stepping to the rhythm. A simple box step works well with a lot of strong four-count or eight-count patterns, for example. It also helps if you read up on some basic dance moves or watch a few videos beforehand.
And that's the part that frustrates me a bit. I understand that people just want to enjoy themselves, and that's perfectly fine. Would it really hurt to borrow a DVD from the public library though, or perhaps look up a few dance moves on the web? That way, you can throw in a few simple swing, jazz or salsa moves. That'd make everything more fun.
The problem is that most people don't do much research before embarking on something. It takes effort to study a few dance moves, and most folks don't have the foresight to do so. Like I said, I don't want to begrudge them that, as I understand that they just want to enjoy themselves. Still, I can't help but think... wouldn't they be able to enjoy themselves a lot more if they also worked on ways to up their game? I sure felt that way when I was starting out.
Heck, for a lot of music, you can get by with just stepping to the rhythm. A simple box step works well with a lot of strong four-count or eight-count patterns, for example. It also helps if you read up on some basic dance moves or watch a few videos beforehand.
And that's the part that frustrates me a bit. I understand that people just want to enjoy themselves, and that's perfectly fine. Would it really hurt to borrow a DVD from the public library though, or perhaps look up a few dance moves on the web? That way, you can throw in a few simple swing, jazz or salsa moves. That'd make everything more fun.
The problem is that most people don't do much research before embarking on something. It takes effort to study a few dance moves, and most folks don't have the foresight to do so. Like I said, I don't want to begrudge them that, as I understand that they just want to enjoy themselves. Still, I can't help but think... wouldn't they be able to enjoy themselves a lot more if they also worked on ways to up their game? I sure felt that way when I was starting out.
Tuesday, October 06, 2009
Blood cells are not organisms!
I can't believe it. I just read a discussion wherein somebody claimed that blood cells are living organisms. (He was a staunch pro-choicer who said, "So what if the embryo is a living organism? So are blood cells!")
Now I don't want to discuss the abortion issue, so my point is not to take sides in that discussion. I just want to say that I was absolutely astonished that he said such a thing. You don't need to know about lymphocytes, leukocytes, antigen-presenting cells or any of those other technical details to know that blood cells are not organisms. They are alive, yes, but not in the same sense that a distinct living organism is alive.
Now I don't want to discuss the abortion issue, so my point is not to take sides in that discussion. I just want to say that I was absolutely astonished that he said such a thing. You don't need to know about lymphocytes, leukocytes, antigen-presenting cells or any of those other technical details to know that blood cells are not organisms. They are alive, yes, but not in the same sense that a distinct living organism is alive.
Monday, October 05, 2009
Whither Christopher Cowart?
Whatever happened to Christopher Cowart of Transcontinental Warranty? His name might not ring a bell, but his business should. He was one of the people who was indicted for that epidemic of car warranty telephone scams that plagued the nation up until May 2009.
I believe in due process; however, assuming that his company was indeed behind these scam calls (and they were undeniably scams), then he and his employees deserve to languish in jail. I don't say that lightly, and at this point, nobody seems to be contesting the fact that he was in charge of this company or that they performed the calls.
I'd like to have some closure. What happened to these folks, and when will they be jailed?
I believe in due process; however, assuming that his company was indeed behind these scam calls (and they were undeniably scams), then he and his employees deserve to languish in jail. I don't say that lightly, and at this point, nobody seems to be contesting the fact that he was in charge of this company or that they performed the calls.
I'd like to have some closure. What happened to these folks, and when will they be jailed?
Sunday, October 04, 2009
Debbe
Debbe Dunning is known more for her figure than for her face. Still, there are times when she looks exceptionally pretty as well. Consider these images of Debbe, for example. I like the way she looks in these pics.
She has a truly sparkling smile at times, and she could look really pretty. I think that she was much prettier than Pamela Anderson, even though Pamela was the more famous of the two Tool Time girls. I liked Debbe much better as Tim Taylor's assistant.
She has a truly sparkling smile at times, and she could look really pretty. I think that she was much prettier than Pamela Anderson, even though Pamela was the more famous of the two Tool Time girls. I liked Debbe much better as Tim Taylor's assistant.
Saturday, October 03, 2009
I feel sick
I hate being sick. I hate to take sick days, I hate feeling weak, and I hate all of these symptoms.
I do often wind up being very productive when I'm sick. Still, I hate this feeling.
I love working out like a maniac in the gym. When I'm sick though, I have to rein it all in. I feel like such a wimp, and I tend to worry about putting on weight or losing strength. Argh.
I prefer to be an iron man all year long. Sadly, I can't keep doing this. I also have too much yard work to do.
I do often wind up being very productive when I'm sick. Still, I hate this feeling.
I love working out like a maniac in the gym. When I'm sick though, I have to rein it all in. I feel like such a wimp, and I tend to worry about putting on weight or losing strength. Argh.
I prefer to be an iron man all year long. Sadly, I can't keep doing this. I also have too much yard work to do.
Friday, October 02, 2009
What happened?
What in the world happened to this page? It looks suspiciously like somebody's content management system is on the fritz. Whoa.
The cynic in me wonders if this'll ever get fixed. I only say that because sysads have a difficult job to perform, and because I know that they are often overworked.
The cynic in me wonders if this'll ever get fixed. I only say that because sysads have a difficult job to perform, and because I know that they are often overworked.
Thursday, October 01, 2009
New year's resolutioners at the gym
I'm already dreading it. In just three months, the gym is going to be flooded with the nasty New Year's Resolutioners. You know -- the people who say that they want to get fit, but who wait until the first of January before actually deciding to do something about it.
These people aren't serious, which is why they don't last. Someone who truly wants to get in shape isn't going to wait until the first of the year. No, he or she is going to eat better and start exercising regardless of what time of the year it is.
What's wrong with these resolutioners? They fill up the gym. They overcrowd the cardio classes. They make it nearly impossible to find a parking space. And they flood the gym all at once, instead of spacing themselves out through the year. I'd have more sympathy if I thought that they were seriously trying to get in shape, but the reality is that these people who wait around until New Year's Day aren't serious about their efforts, and they create a great inconvenience for everyone else.
There is one upside, though. Some of them will hopefully maintain their gym membership throughout the year, even when they're not using them. That'll help defer the costs for everyone else.
These people aren't serious, which is why they don't last. Someone who truly wants to get in shape isn't going to wait until the first of the year. No, he or she is going to eat better and start exercising regardless of what time of the year it is.
What's wrong with these resolutioners? They fill up the gym. They overcrowd the cardio classes. They make it nearly impossible to find a parking space. And they flood the gym all at once, instead of spacing themselves out through the year. I'd have more sympathy if I thought that they were seriously trying to get in shape, but the reality is that these people who wait around until New Year's Day aren't serious about their efforts, and they create a great inconvenience for everyone else.
There is one upside, though. Some of them will hopefully maintain their gym membership throughout the year, even when they're not using them. That'll help defer the costs for everyone else.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Stacey W
Stacey Williams. I don't understand the appeal of a lot of the modern models, but Stacey was different. That's because she looked healthy and fit. She also had a truly beautiful face, which makes a real difference.
She's athletic and it shows. She's also articulate, which is a huge plus.
She's athletic and it shows. She's also articulate, which is a huge plus.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Cazzy
So I watched this episode of "Two and a Half Men" on DVD. An actress named Cazzy had been billed as a guest star ("Girl #2"). As it turned out though, she only appeared for practically an instant and had no speaking role -- kinda like her appearance on "That 70s Show." She was basically there to look good.
The thing is, they could have hired a much less attractive actress for that part and it would have still been credible. What a waste, especially since it seems to me that she can act. (How well? I don't know for sure, but she can act.)
The thing is, they could have hired a much less attractive actress for that part and it would have still been credible. What a waste, especially since it seems to me that she can act. (How well? I don't know for sure, but she can act.)
Sunday, June 28, 2009
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A sad message
I received the following message from a friend. It has been slightly edited, but the sentiment remains.
Hello Everyone!
This is hard to email and will be a shock for you as it is for us but the nodules in my mom's lungs are cancer. She had a couple of them biopsied. The hardest part of this is that the doctors say it is incurable. This cancer is the same as her breast cancer and because it's in another location it's concidered stage 4 but I guess because it is in the lungs the treatment can only stop the nodules from growing. I'm not sure what else to say....Please intercede in prayer for us.
I have set up a CaringBridge website for my mom since I don't like sending out these mass emails. That way you can stay up to date through the webstie and also leave encouragement for my mom and family. Below is the information:
To keep you up to date on her, I created a CaringBridge website. You can follow Patricia’s progress and show your support.
You can visit her website in either of two easy ways:
1. Visit the CaringBridge website by clicking the link below.
<< link removed for privacy reasons >>
2. Enter the website name, << name removed for privacy reasons >>, at www.CaringBridge.org.
When you visit you’ll be asked to log in, because I’ve chosen to keep the site private.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Losing respect
I know that I've said it before, but I've really lost a lot of respect for Hope. She is a nice person with a lot of wonderful qualities, but I've lost a lot of respect for her now.
Her parents, on the other hand, are commendable and admirable. I respect them a lot.
Her parents, on the other hand, are commendable and admirable. I respect them a lot.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Not a fan of the substitute
My Monday cardio bootcamp instructor was laid up for a few weeks due to a torn muscle. Another instructor, Donna, filled in for her. Donna isn’t very good, which is why attendance drops when she takes over. Donna’s movements tend to be horribly repetitive, and she doesn’t pour a lot of energy into her voice. I don’t think I’ll ever take another one of her classes.
Monday, June 15, 2009
When chivalry is misunderstood
I've been surprised at how vehemently some people denounce acts of chivalry -- you know, actions such as helping a woman down some difficult steps or pulling her chair out when seating at a table. "Don't do it for a woman if you wouldn't do it for a man!" they say.
I understand the sentiment, but I think it's overreacting. People shouldn't take offense at these gestures. They're not meant to imply that the other person is incapable of walking down steps by themselves, or that they can't open their own doors. These are just social niceties and signs of respect.
I like what Carrie Lukas said in her article from the National Review Online:
I understand the sentiment, but I think it's overreacting. People shouldn't take offense at these gestures. They're not meant to imply that the other person is incapable of walking down steps by themselves, or that they can't open their own doors. These are just social niceties and signs of respect.
I like what Carrie Lukas said in her article from the National Review Online:
Gentlemanly conduct isn't about women at all. It's about men and their sense of themselves. Paul Anderson continues to say that he would give up his seat to someone truly in need, such as the elderly, pregnant women, and the disabled. But that's not gentlemanly, that's just humane.
A man giving up his seat to a woman who he knows is equally capable of standing on her own is different. It's a gesture that doesn't (as some feminist suggest) imply women are weak. It's a simple show of respect. Respect not just for the woman, but also for himself. It shows that this man believes himself to be a gentleman and holds himself to high standards. Those standards are more important than enjoying the comfort of a seat on his morning commute.
Resurrecting chivalry begins by remembering why it's important. Chivalry is part of a civil world. Women should welcome gentlemanly gestures, and graciously accept them with a thank you. I'll start by thanking the men of the Titanic, who 96 years ago gave up their seats so that the women could live.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Hope
I lost a lot of respect for my friend Hope this weekend.
Hope got married back in June. I never called her after that (in fact, I hardly ever called her beforehand); however, I would occasionally shoot her an e-mail message saying things like "Hey, how are you?" or "I'm really glad that you showed us photos from your trip" or "Just FYI, I told Mon that I really think that you picked a good husband" or words to that effect. Most of the time, she didn't respond, nor did I necessarily expect her to.
As it turns out though, she didn't like receiving those messages. Why? Because she was a married woman and she felt like these messages were an intrusion into her emotional boundaries.
I think she's being an idiot. I know that sounds kinda harsh, but I think it's true. She's not a dummy in general, but on this particular issue, she's being a bit of a jackass.
E-mail messages are not like telephone conversations. A quick message that says "I'm glad you folks got to visit" generally is not loaded with emotional content. It's not the sort of thing that should feel like an intrusion into one's marriage or emotional boundaries. Give me a break.
Most of these messages don't even require any response! Of course, a message that contains a direct question like "How are you?" may require a response -- though even then, many people understand that other folks are kinda busy. To say that this somehow constitutes a break of emotional protocol is simply dumb.
Hope, I have lost a great deal of respect for you.
Hope got married back in June. I never called her after that (in fact, I hardly ever called her beforehand); however, I would occasionally shoot her an e-mail message saying things like "Hey, how are you?" or "I'm really glad that you showed us photos from your trip" or "Just FYI, I told Mon that I really think that you picked a good husband" or words to that effect. Most of the time, she didn't respond, nor did I necessarily expect her to.
As it turns out though, she didn't like receiving those messages. Why? Because she was a married woman and she felt like these messages were an intrusion into her emotional boundaries.
I think she's being an idiot. I know that sounds kinda harsh, but I think it's true. She's not a dummy in general, but on this particular issue, she's being a bit of a jackass.
E-mail messages are not like telephone conversations. A quick message that says "I'm glad you folks got to visit" generally is not loaded with emotional content. It's not the sort of thing that should feel like an intrusion into one's marriage or emotional boundaries. Give me a break.
Most of these messages don't even require any response! Of course, a message that contains a direct question like "How are you?" may require a response -- though even then, many people understand that other folks are kinda busy. To say that this somehow constitutes a break of emotional protocol is simply dumb.
Hope, I have lost a great deal of respect for you.
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