Friday, January 01, 2010

What a disappointing NYE celebration

I had to decide where to go on New Year's Eve. I could have gone to this one singles group, but the folks there tend to be older than I am, and they even act much older than they are. I could have gone to this ballroom on the west side of town, but I suspected that it would mostly be older people as well. (Indeed, I later found out that it was mostly older folks and a lot of couples. Not a great environment.)

So I went with some friends to a singles dance about an hour away. That was very disappointing as well. It was a "dance" where people mostly just wiggled around on the dance floor. Were they having fun? Certainly, and I won't begrudge them that. I was really hoping to see some people with actual dance skills though, especially partner dance skills.

One problem with these singles groups is that there are often good reasons why these folks are single. I'm not trying to disparage them, nor do I wish to minimize their worth as human beings. Like it or not though, very often these groups tend to be filled with people who are badly out of shape or who otherwise lack physical ability.

That's not the entire problem, though. One of my friends is pretty athletic, and she's even quite pretty. She just can't dance, and I don't know why. I think that ultimately, it's because she lacks confidence. She could do it, but if you throw something unexpected her way, she panics. She also doesn't put in a lot of effort, which is disappointing. I know that a lot of guys would want to dance with someone like her.